As a victim of domestic violence who became the target and family scapegoat I have decided to share my story in hopes to help others as well as reeducate myself on how I became their victim. My goal with my new initiative, With Harm To None©️ is to do just that. I am working on establishing a new way for everyone. Unfortunately, there is so much misunderstood about domestic violence.

With Harm To None©️will be to work with others, never against. Working alongside others to re-train, re-educate, re-inspect and take a large step back when people are accused of abuse/violence or subjected to it. In my experience the aggressor was masked and was also the instigator. They meticulously created story lines to cover their tracks to create their scapegoat, me. This has been occurring for over half a century. The lack of accountability on the witnesses is also something that should be addressed, they need to be able to feel safe enough to speak up as well. That no harm shall come to them. It’s my experience that it is not intentional by authorities or those with “power” or even the witnesses to mask the issues. Simply put learning together can create peace and higher education.

I was diagnosed with PTSD years ago because I was continuously put in harm’s way, abused, isolated and intentionally ostricized. Until recently I thought being harassed was normal, I met new people they treated me differently. Because of this not only have I learned to accept myself and my gifts I have realigned my chakras. It has been a family secret that I am a healer and a psychic medium. I was never allowed to tell. In fact, I was shunned and isolated intentionally because of it. It was not for my protection, but for theirs so they could continue the abuse without repercussions of me being privy to it. Jealousy and negligence were a huge piece of them getting away with it. They continue to do it. They find it fun. It’s not vindication, its pure joy for them. The people around me were pushed away for numerous reasons, most importantly because not one person decided to come to me. They went to them, Jennie, Matt, Paul or Tina. So, when I didn’t show up it was because I didn’t know. Why? Once again, no one checks on me or asks me to come, they go through them. Why? “I’ll tell her.” They don’t. Stop blaming me. Look in the mirror, how can you enjoy this, how can you continue to do this to me or others? How come you join in? My ex-husband was so abusive I videoed it. The police came to my house to help and guess it did stop for a bit. SO why isn’t it stopping now? I don’t know!! Why am I a target because THEY allow me to be.

Not only have I been threatened, I was set up and yes had gun pulled on me. I turned that in. Let’s see what happens.

The new joke is “they?” have a master key, that I guess you can get on the internet, so they can enter my home and rob one thing at a time. Shut off my cameras, right? They can do that too, I guess that’s easy. Safety with these people does not exist. If you know them, stop them. Be a hero, not their fake friend. They would do it to you too. That is why I say fake. I have strange feeling that they will have two new targets if those turn around and start helping me. What if they do have a key. What if they do break in. This is ridiculous, it is not only childish, but also embarrassing for them. Who wants to be friends with people like this? Not me, hence With Harm To None©️. Zero tolerance this behavior. Threats, intentional harm, gossip, instilling fear and I guess attempted robbery.

How do they pull it off, the illegal entries, the robberies (my home included) besides taking one thing at a time so you are confused, they park and walk. No one suspects a walker. They keep coming back, they only need a few minutes. Lock up and leave. Nothing suspicious until you go look for it. Like my 211 Award letter. Something important to me, that thankfully I did not need it yesterday for my son’s financial proof of leaving the job,

On another note, I have also decided to learn about my diagnosis. It is not incurable. There are many misnomers about PTSD, it’s not just the military that has this diagnosis often and there are many many people who have it that you will never have been diagnosed. In fact, I am willing to bet you already know someone who does. PTSD is a physical manifestation of a form abuse or trauma. It’s about energy and not how the persons responds but how they have been treated. In my case over a lifetime.

The accusers and isolators in my case are hiding something, and they needed someone to take the fall, thus the scapegoat. Many times, this person (the scapegoat) is so innocent, as I am or was, they have no idea what is coming, or no way to defend themselves as it was taken from me, including people. I was never asked my side of the story because so many details were left out so how could I defend what I didn’t know was coming. Creating evidence…to protect themselves. This is where the re-education in my opinion would open up new doors to healing. Nothing in these situations should be taken at face value.

Unfortunately, this is something that our justice system, education system, healthcare system and people of many communities are unaware of or not trained on. There is evidence on both sides, however what happens when your side is never shown, and you are immediately guilty? Yet you never entered a plea. What happens when no one listens? What happens when people intentionally cause harm, and they are allowed to? What happens when people help them cause harm? What happens when they coerce and manipulate others into joining their “team”. It’s called being manipulated and taken advantage of and it is not fair or right to those either. Sometimes they love bomb you. How buying gifts, keeping you regular, greasing you, or sharing inside info to keep you in their pocket. In fact, they may be scared too of what will happen to them if they don’t help the harmful ones.

What happens when they have pull in the community or friends that just assume they know them that in turn back them and their slander? What happens is they help create the scapegoat with them. They help keep that person a target. They continue the abuse on their behalf; they continue the isolation. Often times the worst ones find it funny and are proud of themselves. This is a true sign that person needs help. They steal from me and find it funny. They laugh about it. “Look what I got!” When I defend myself, I am always made out to be the bad guy. That is how they abuse you. Make you feel guilty for protecting yourself or standing up for yourself. Stand your ground. It is not easy when there is a group but believe me you can do it.

Here is the other thing they do, tell you to stop. “You need to stop.” Stop what, telling the truth. Stop defending myself, Stop allowing others to harm me. No.

I am being ostracized and why does it work because she/they start problems not just for me, then they try to do it for anyone I become close to. It doesn’t always work, some people come to me first as I do them. That is another way to stop this malicious behavior. She needs help.

It’s time for change. It’s time for further investigations. It’s time for support, positive support. It’s time for prevention and education. It’s time for people to stop jumping to conclusions and “playing victim”. It’s about people’s safety, the scapegoat’s safety, the community and being a united front.