When you are being harassed, stalked, physically assaulted, defamed or abused in other ways tell your doctor. This also pertains to when people challenge who you are and what you have achieved or have accomplished. They are attempting to attack your credibility. Possibly ostracize you in order to accomplish their goals. This is an underlying form of abuse, not often easily recognized.

Document it.

Your doctor or the authorities may not have all the tools to help you, but it will help them to understand you and possibly open up new doors, new opportunities and healing.

1. When you are being insulted, ignore them. When they continue, treat them how they treat you but do it with class. It is not always easy to accomplish that so a couple slang words to make it effective can help. Time and place though, people.

   1. Don’t visit or spend time with them anymore. Which means choose friends, people or places that are healthier. No more instigators, be-littlers, harassers or physical abusers…etc.

      1. Save your energy. Fill up your cup!

2. When people lie to you and you know it, trust yourself. Gut Check

   1. If you can’t trust yourself around certain people or they change your behavior, don’t let them take your power. Find new friends, new family, not all families are healthy to be around.

   2. Be Mindful, check yourself. Remember you are entitled to be treated well, with kindness, with care. It is ok to expect that. In fact you should.

   3. When people manipulate you, bribe or tell you have to do something that makes you uncomfortable or breaks the law, be brave and say no. They are not your friends or even your family. They are intentionally putting you in harm’s way. Not thinking about you. They don’t care, this is obvious by how they treat you.
      

3. Sexual Assault - Yell, tell them NO as loud as you can. Who cares who hears you! That is what helps you. Let everyone hear you. Protect yourself or others. It solidifies you are telling the truth.

   1. Don’t let people touch you or photograph you if you don’t want them to.

   2. If it makes you uncomfortable then tell them. “You are making me uncomfortable.” Say it in front of the group. Say it so others hear you. It’s protection. Keeping it qu9iet is what they want, don’t succumb to their harmful wishes.

   3. Record them if you need to. Save it. Email it to yourself. Keep a log if they won’t stop.

   4. Direct Messages (DM) show people what he or she or they sent you, let them at first to protect yourself. Take DO NOT LIKE THE PHOTOS or TEXTS OR DMS it endorses their behavior and makes you an accomplice, part of the abuse, especially if they are married or in a relationship. It’s intentional harm. It also affects children of relationships.

      1. Take a screenshot, email it to yourself, label it harassment then block them & report them.

      2. Don’t be “one of those” slang for undercover secret sex. They never tell so they are used and most likely have been abused.

      3. Swinging (Switcheraoos’) It’s gross, my opinion. Kids and the partners are always affected, additionally if they are with one they are most likely with another. Diseases will or may carry through your home and yes to your family or children, including the elderly. All it takes is one sip out of your cup to spread some diseases (STD’s)

   5. Fake relationships that are falsified as friends or family so you can have sex including dates without your partner knowing. It’s harmful, deceitful and a form of sexual violence by both parties. It is an arrestable offense. It is past cheating because it wasn’t a mistake it was planned. The females or males involved are dangerous they intentionally stalk and harass when they don’t get what they want. Be careful.

4. Fraud - fake identity, fake accounts, fake friends. Turn them in, protect the partner, family & children

   1. Stealing(Borrowing or Taking) someone’s ID’s or wallet to create a credit card, id or other in their name is not only harassment when you want them to take the heat, but also identity theft. Both are punishable by law.

   2. Filing paperwork under another’s name

   3. Signing another’s name without permission.

   4. Endorsing products fraudulently

   5. Instigating through fake accounts

5. Lying to cover up any of the above or other. Don’t do it. What would you want, to be protected or to continue the lie or to be lied to.

6. Help with the investigation. Tell them your story, officers, detectives, the groups, those with power. Let them do their research, let them do their job and look into all the details. Beyond the surface. If you have facts be sure you are able to fully present them. If there is evidence against and you have the ability (not the means) to dispute it, ask them to help. They will do it, it is the law. The right to be treated fairly.

7. What to do when your evidence is not collected and fully presented on your behalf? You try again. If it is the partially collected or deemed inadmissible or removed because it is found insufficient you have the constitutional right to have a clear fully detailed explanation with supporting evidence as to why your support is insufficient. You have the right to dispute and the right to back yourself up. Worst case you politely stand up and speak on your own behalf.