How to Help

Listen.

Sometimes all it takes is being a GOOD Listener. Don’t judge, just listen. Hear what they are saying.

Don’t anticipate what they are saying or trying to tell you. LISTEN.

A person doesn’t always need advice. They may just need to trust you..

Believe them. Stand up for them.

Don’t participate in the harmful gossip about the people who are asking for help. Create a safe environment for healing.

Squash / Stop the conversation when they gossip, slander or just plain try to coax you into talking about someone.

Don’t lower your standards. Look beyond your nose.

Pay attention differently if you are concerned or if it seems to abusive to be real. Do not let people harm them. Call the police for them. Support their needs not the harmful ones. Tell for them.

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Give them a hug.

Be aware that some individuals have been physically abused or assaulted so they may not be comfortable with being touched. Do not take this personally just be aware and be kind.

Be a good friend. With Harm To None.

Show them they are safe, no matter who is harming them. Protect Them.

Focus on what is best for them, remember to also keep boundaries for you. Step in and encourage them when necessary.

Help them to trust you, prove it. Create real trust.

Don’t ever ‘sneak around behind their backs’ or ever lie to them. The trust will be immediately broken. It is also a form abuse. Most of the time they were to trusting in the past or even co-dependent.

Testing them is also abusive. It is for you, not to help heal them. It can be narcissistic behavior or your ego to test a victim. Please don’t.

Interrogating them or continuing to victimize them or maybe even harass them hoping to trigger them is violence. Please be aware of the energy you show them. Kindness is important to helping them heal.

If they ask you to leave them alone or give them space, please do so. You are not conducive to their wellbeing, and they may have been guided to do this as well. Sometimes cutting ties is not for their protection but for their health. Protecting people who harm others is a very large form of abusive. This includes lying to cover others behavior. You are also then abusing them. Please seek alternate help for yourself so you do not become a victim as well.

Take time out for yourself, ME time. Domestic Violence and Abuse can be a lot for anyone. Encourage the victim to do the same. Treat themselves with kindness and respect.

Create fun and happiness. Do fun activities together. Work on your well being. Try journaling and talking about things rather than people.

Take a class, workout, go for a walk, cook dinner together.

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