With Harm To None
As a victim of domestic violence who became the target and family scapegoat because I was desperate for them to love me I have begun to establish my new initiative.
With Harm To None©️is to re-train, re-educate, re-inspect and take a large step back when people are accused of violence. Often times the agressor is masked and they are the insitgator. They travel in masses, they create groups, they isolate and intentioanlly sabotage their target.
They are hiding something, and they need someone to take the fall, thus the scapegoat. Many times, this person is so innocent they have no idea what is coming, or no means, or no way to defend themselves as it was taken from me, including people.
Unfortunately, this is something that our justice system, education system and people of many communities are unaware of. There is evidence on both sides, however what happens when your side is never shown you are immediately guilty. Not what America stands for.
It’s time for change. It’s time for further investigations. It’s time for people to stop jumping to conclusions. It’s about people’s safety, the scapegoat’s safety.
What happens when they have pull in the community or friends that just assume they know them that in turn back them and their slander? What happens is they help create the scapegoat with them. They help keep that person a target. They continue the abuse on their behalf; they continue the isolation. Often times the worst ones find it funny and are proud of themselves. This is a true sign that person needs help.
Domestic Violence Advocates Are Key
I have one out of state to protect myself.
Visit one today.
There is more one than type of violence.
See the wheel.
Unfortunately, I learned the hard way you cannot always trust attorneys. Do your homework. Ask permission to speak up in court for your best interest.
Using the ## symbol is a sign of domestic violence. Please share. If you need help, go to your local authorities first. I made a mistake and never did. I asked for help as a little girl but no one believed me. I ran away at 14 and spent as much time as I could away from my “home”. I spent time up North with my grandmother and cousins as much as I could.
I was never allowed to be myself, I was beaten, left alone, sometimes even without food and constantly blamed for everything from their entire circle. Please trust yourself people. Know when to never go back.
I am gifted and have been since at least 3 years old. I was told to shut up, not now, no she’s not. No matter who went to my family to tell them, they disagreed with them. In fact there are others that have been harmed by the same people I have. They walked away sooner. I chose to try harder, which I was stupid for. That is codependency.
Trusting yourself and staying away from harmful people is the best piece of advice I can give you. I learned the hard way. I was intentionally and still am being blamed for things I never did.
I have even been told I have been places at times I never went, without proof, they just get to say it. Or there are times I have been slandered for fun. those people are sad.
I have been codependent so long that I thought they cared, I feel so much better for trusting myself and walking away.
Trust this I will never be the scapegoat again or the target
When they are desperate to make you their target, the scapegoat, or the victim they will make up anything they can to anyone who will “listen” to further their initiative; the coverup, the dishonesty, the fake loyalty, the money, & unfortunately their just plain jealousy. If you want to help instead of hurt, stop the process on their end. End the conversation. Go to the police for the victim, stand up in court, tell the truth. Help the victims. Be a good human.